Expressing loving and romantic feelings comes naturally for some people. They're the ones who tuck a love note in a briefcase, pack a series of tiny gifts in a suitcase before their mates go on a business trip, or show up with flowers "just because." For other people, though, demonstrating love and romance is more of a struggle - not because the feelings aren't there, but because they're at a loss for ideas.

Even if you have intense feelings of love and long to be romantic, it's sometimes difficult to express those feelings. Perhaps you feel that any gesture you make would be trite compared to the deep connection you have, or maybe you simply grew up in a household that wasn't demonstrative. If that's the case, special occasions like Valentine's Day, anniversaries, and other commemorative days can leave you feeling anxious - as though there's an expectation of receiving something spectacular, or that whatever you do won't convey the proper tone.

If that's the case, it's time to take a deep breath. Remember the adage that "it's the thought that counts," and take it to heart. Your gifts don't have to break the bank; they just have to come from your heart. Being (or becoming) romantic is really just a series of small gestures that are a reflection of your inner feelings. So, don't get stuck on the "shoulds," and instead choose gifts and actions that express how you feel. When you do so, your romantic nature will shine through.

When it comes to thoughtful, romantic gifts, there's nothing wrong with tradition. Chocolates and jewelry are always both appropriate and appreciated. If you're so inclined, you can get even more personal, and give your beloved poetry (either a book of love poems or an original poem written by you) or intimate wear. You can even think outside of the box, and give a small sculpture or even a candle holder and a candle with your loved one's favorite scent.

The true secret to romance and being a romantic is to personalize your gestures and gifts, so that they reflect the feelings you hold in your heart. For example, a box of chocolates from your local fine candy store is lovely, but chocolates in the shape of hearts are more meaningful. Likewise, a pair of earrings is beautiful, but a pendant depicting a man's and woman's bodies "spooning" in closeness makes the gift intimate.

The idea behind a romantic gift is to capture your beloved's imagination by reflecting your significance as a couple. The best way to do that is to give a gift that reflects a state of mind where two people are intertwined as one.

Even if you're not naturally romantic, you can learn to incorporate romance into your thoughts, gestures, and gifts. When you do, your relationship will be richer and your beloved will know that he or she is treasured.